Ali's dad has not been feeling well for a long time and thought he might of had a stroke. The MRI results are back, seems to have a mass in his facial region(sinus cavity or between his ear). They're not quite sure exactly where? CT scan scheduled for next week. A hard part to this will be her travels to S. Florida this weekend to visit. Her family is very accepting of me, especially her dad, mom not so much with our relationship, but figures I've been here for 10 years...not going anywhere. Don't get me wrong she shows me affection, but we just don't talk about us. We don't change things when she comes to visit, and she has peeked into the nursery. She has asked Ali's sister, "Is your sister planning on having a baby"? K just dodged that question. So here's the tricker. Ali has gotten sick just about everyday and is extremely tired, so being at her parents this weekend shouldn't be any different? Her curious george mom will probably suspect "something", but Ali is not in a place to tell her yet. So rewind 10 years when Ali came out to her mom, well, that was a disaster....her mom is a devout Baptist and was crushed(I'm going litely by that phrase) , hence our reason for not telling her quite yet. I just don't want any added stress for her right now...we are finally 11 weeks and counting up to get over the hurdle. So, please pray for Ali's dad and for her that this trip will be uneventful...for now.
***UPDATE****
CT results came back today. Dr said it doesn't look good(what does that mean?) And needs to see ENT ASAP...well to them that's tomorrow(Wed)
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sending positive thoughts.
definitely sending positive thoughts. i'm hoping that if mom is poking around and asking about a potential pregnancy, she may be excited over the prospect. she may not understand your relationship but it sounds like she maybe is starting to respect it at least?
oh, 1 more thing. i had so much anxiety in my 1st trimester. i thought i killed my baby with worry over and over again and was re-assured by our RE and nurse that it wasn't possible. she may have gotten a buzz in utero more often than she needed from all of the adrenaline but the good news is if the bean is nice and healthy a little stress won't hurt it!
She must be my long lost sister, because her family sounds EXACTLY like mine.
I will pray for her dad, not only that he recovers because it's her dad, but also so that she doesn't have to come out to her mom :)
We did the same thing when we found out we were pregnant. Guess how my mom found out.
She stopped by our house and we weren't home from work yet. She called and said that she had to use our bathroom and couldn't wait for us...would we please give her the code to the garage so she could get in. We had to. there was nothing we could make up. OH WAIT !! that's not true. I gave her our garage door code backwards. It still worked. NO SHIT ! Now if that isn't fate I don't know what is.
ANY WAYS. guess what book was on the counter in the bathroom.
WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU ARE EXPECTING.
NICE !
PLUS, the nursery was started. J had of course put the crib up the week after we found out we were pregnant. What the hell. :)
I'm sure she saw it.
Let's just say the next 7 months were a lot of "nobody see the big ass purple elephant in the middle of the room"
Seriously. Nobody talked about it, nobody asked about it. NOTHING !
It was the weirdest thing.
Sorry to have hijacked your comments. The story just hit home.
Prayers coming your way.
I can understand having religious parents...my in-laws are very religious and we were afraid to tell them about the pregnancy, worried they might see at as "bringing a baby into sin" kind of thing.
We hadn't planned on telling them until the 2nd trimester, but we told them earlier b/c at 13 wks I started having complications and we needed them to know what was going on with us. To our great surprise, they are very excited about the baby and just think of it as a "gift from God" like every other baby. If anything, the baby has brought us all closer together.
You never know how it might go. Definitely telling them on the phone was easier b/c in person you have no escape if they react poorly. Good luck...I'm sure you will know when it's the right time to tell your partner's mom.
I hope everything goes smoothly and that it isn't too much stress. Thinking of you guys.
Oh, that sounds rough. Sending positive thoughts.
My partner's mom had a very hard time with us too. Every time we had big news, we were totally stressed and for good reason. Her mom usually had a terrible reaction. From coming out, to getting engaged, to setting a wedding date... it never went well. Until we told her we were having a baby. I remember we were so stressed out about telling our parents but it was the first time that we got a genuinely positive, happy and excited response. It was awesome. And things have just gotten better since then. I hope it's the same for you.
Thinking of you guys
We will keep Ali's dad in our prayers!
It's been a while since I've read your blog! Congratulations on the pregnancy! Hope you are feeling well!
And thanks for the congrats on our blog!
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