Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Just not sure
So I need a little advice or perspective on how to handle this situation. Twice now on two separate occasions, two different people have greeted us and kissed HC on the mouth. I am not down with that. I just don't like it. I don't kiss other people's children on the lips and I don't want other people kissing HC on the lips. But I really am not sure what to say. I don't want to hurt their feelings. Especially one person, she is a close friend and I just know I'll come off bitchy and I don't want them to take it personal. The first time it happened I was totally shocked! This was a church friend, she hugged me first and before I could turn had smacked one on HC.. on the mouth!. I froze. And HC was taken back by the whole- your in my space too quickly thing- and gave her the look of crazy brows and then started crying. Then tonight it happened again as we were leaving a restaurant saying goodbye and another friend, close friend, leaned in and kiss, kiss, kiss HC on the mouth...three times! Again shocked, I pulled her back a little after the third but it all happened so fast. Now both of these people are kissers. Like when they greet almost all their friends they will kiss you on the mouth unless you turn your head. I turn my head. I am not a mouth kisser except to La. And now HC. But not even my parents. I just don't like it. I am perfectly happy to cheek kiss, in fact I find it endearing, but not on the mouth. So... has this happened to anyone else? Advice for handling?
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4 comments:
NO. not that I can remember.
Thing is...I don't have any advice because it sounds like it happens before you can say anything. Now if your close friend does it again you can softly and carefully say...no mouth kisses for this one...RSV season has us scared.
Smile and leave it. If she's like most people she will chalk it up to you being an over protective first time mom.
I'd rather be a protective mom than let people kiss my kids on the mouth.
I'm not a mouth kisser either. I don't kiss my kids on the mouth. They go through a baby kiss stage where they will kiss me on the lips and I have on occasion let them....but no. no kissing on the mouth for me. that's saved for the wife. :)
Maybe you could just make the effort to hold her back when people go in for the hug/kiss. That way there are no surprises and you can use the RSV thing as a back up !
Good luck with that.
ahh that's a NO NO ... Babies are pron to sickness and Trash & RSV is high season. Maybe the next time don;t let the person hold HC and when they ask ask them kindly NOT to kiss her on her mouth please.
I am the same way and it bugs me so bad. Mouth kissing is for our little family of four only. I don't even like grandparents to kiss the kids on the mouth or shard drinks or whatever. I don't feel like I can say anything to family but I would say something to friends. I had to tell some close friends not to feed our baby or share drinks with her. That bugs me even worse! I just flat out told them not to do it and they were fine. My advice is to just tell them how you feel, Don't blame it on RSV season because then the kissing may return in a few months. If they truly are good friends, they will understand. Just ask them to keep their kisses to the forehead. Or I guess you could have a shirt made for her to wear that says, "Please don't kiss my mouth, my moms don't like it." Anyway I have learned that we have to stick up for our kids because they can't. Like I don't believe in "making" them hug or kiss someone if they don't want to. They are our kids and so it's our rules. Speak up and look paranoid, better than living to regret it!
I have this problem with one person too and I have said no kisses please and they refuse to listen, so I used my enforcer (KJ) that seems to have helped a little. My advice is speak up she relies on you to speak for her and it is apparent she is not a fan of mouth kisses. Wait do I kiss her on the mouth??? I am sure I don't I am just as paranoid as you.
Missing you guys terribly! We need our Ali LaLa HC fix STAT!
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