Well the red curtain hasn't dropped, but we did get the unfortunate BFN ON 12DPO AND 13 DPO. So now what? I think a trip to the fertility specialist and possibly upping the clomid. It is all so damn frustrating. We do have a possible option of using a known donor. He is 50, but in great shape. He works out daily and eats a healthy diet. Should we be concerned with his age? This is all new to us...are there steps we take to protect ourselves?
All we can do...is put our boots back on.
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DAMN IT !!!
Now is the time to finish off that 24 pack.
I'm so sorry.
I have no advice for you with the known donor. I personally had a known, it didn't work out and I'm glad. There are lots of people out there with known donors that work out great. It just seems like the ones that don't work out are the ones we hear about is all.
Does age slow down those swimmers ? That's the only thing I can think would cause problems.
Maybe while you save up some money you could use fresh for a while.
You'd be able to do it 2 and 3 times a month this way.
Again, I'm so sorry. I was really hoping the alcohol would have worked.
I am very sorry about it not working this time....
Don't give up. Your time will come soon!
I know a little about KD's.. as we are using one. This month (hopefully this weekend) will be our second try. We have an attorney, we created a contract, we (Mic and I) have named each other medical powers of attorney, things like that. It is just to safe guard ourselves... and you may have already done this.. if you don't live in a state that you can be married in. If I do get pregnant, we are in a situation that the potential child would know the bio father. We didn't want it any other way.
Best of luck to the both of you -- I hope whatever decision you make, is one that you will be comfortable with. I do know that using a KD shouldn't be taken lightly-- and there is still a lot of money and time involved for the contract etc.
I don't know that age affects anything.. think of David Crosby and Trump.. (haha.. like.. I KNOW them.. right.. they just popped to mind ;)
My fingers remain crossed..
casey
Sorry to read you're out again. We used a KD to start with. It didn't work out, but I wouldn't rule out trying that way again - I think it went south because we simply didn't do enough talking. At 50, there's no reason your guy wouldn't still be fertile. In fact, when thinking of ho to ask, we reckoned older guys would be a good bet. As long as you get his sperm analysed to see if it's good, and get him screened for STDs, it could be good. We too put a donor agreement in place, drawn up by a solicitor. In the UK it's not legally binding, but it shows intent and can be useful should (heaven forbid) you end up in court.
We are so grateful for our known donor. It saved us a lot of money and we got to get lots of sperm in a moth so we felt like we had better chances. I wouldn't worry about age. I know lots of men who had kids in their 50's. I do reccommend contracts and paying him. That is what we did. Sorry you were out again this month. It really sucks!
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